One often-quoted expression is "New year, new me." I've never liked that expression. The reason I don't like it is simple. There is nothing magical about the calendar changing that changes you.

What if you started off the New Year with a serene home?

What makes a person likable?

According to this Harvard study, the secret to being likable and improving interpersonal bonding isn’t being polite, helpful, or having a good sense of humor. It’s asking more questions.

For years I used unintentional intermittent fasting as part of my diagnostic screening for ADHD.

Habits, instead of tying you down to boring routines, actually set you free.

Are you grappling with focus, organization, or procrastination issues? Is the daily grind feeling overwhelming due to Adult ADHD? Juggling work, family, and personal life can be daunting, but it doesn't have to be. This article offers five strategies to help you thrive despite the challenges of ADHD.

Living with adult ADHD can be tough, and one often ignored part of it is shame. Shame makes you feel bad about yourself and stops you from doing your best. But you can beat shame and live a good life with ADHD. Here are seven ways to do it.

Some adults with ADHD have trouble paying close attention to small details, affecting their success in life and work. This article shares ways to get better at noticing details which is important because taking medication does not solve all the problems related to ADHD.

Do you have great ideas and know what to do but need help to start? Many adults with ADHD have this problem because they struggle with focusing, paying attention for a long time, getting easily distracted, making decisions, planning, and finishing tasks.

We particularly seek someone with a medical background, someone who is social media savvy, and someone knowledgeable about elementary education. More info and application here: www.iadhd.org/join-our-board

Why We Get Bored

*Small talk can be profoundly boring. The older you get, the more this is true. Truly, it is hard to find people who "match" in terms of what they find stimulating.

*Yesterday I talked with a friend who also has ADHD about how typical conversations go. One person says his whole monologue and then the other person says her whole monologue. The monologue-ing gets so boring it is hard for us to stay engaged.

They may have thought they were offering words of comfort, but it was not comforting. Instead, it felt like they were diminishing the significance of my ADHD.

Inside I was annoyed and hurt by their words, but without knowing how to respond, I said nothing.

Imagine having a toddler in the room with you. The room is constantly messy. You cannot keep it tidy because the toddler keeps messing it up. You occasionally tidy the room, but when you turn your back, it is a mess again. You get overwhelmed with the chaos and cannot control feeling discouraged. It is a never-ending battle to keep my room tidy.

Roger: I have trouble organizing, prioritizing, managing time, switching from one activity/state to another, and directing my attention. I am messy and forgetful. I am easily overwhelmed, always run late, do one thing obsessively until it is nearly perfect, drift off when my mind should be focused on one thing, and have trouble working without explicit instructions.

What Is the Difference Between 8:55 a.m. and 9:05 a.m.?

Any child knows the simple answer is 10 minutes, but I’m asking for a more complex answer to a more complex question: What’s the difference between being 5 minutes early and five minutes late?  What is the difference between arriving to a staff meeting at 8:55 a.m. instead of 9:05 a.m.?

Perseverance

Why ignore reality? Life with ADHD can get tough. There are struggles aplenty. I do not have to describe them to you. Chances are, you know what I am talking about.

In the moments when life seems complicated, what do you do?

I believe talking about the "gifts" of ADHD started with physicians and therapists who were uncomfortable telling a child and her parents that she had ADHD. They wanted the diagnosis to be less scary, less awful sounding. They wanted to say something positive so the child and the family would not be downhearted and discouraged by the diagnosis. However, even for children, the talk about "gifts" rings hollow. They know they are different; they know they have struggles; and they don't understand why.

Today a lady told me she didn't believe in ADHD. "We don't need labels," she said. "We're all just on one big spectrum. I don't think you have ADHD at all." she smiled after 5 minutes of meeting me. 😬

She was trying to come from a good place, so I'm not here to rant at her ✌ but it's a view shared by many and damaging.

Today I asked CHATGPT this question, "Are people with ADHD as capable as people without ADHD?

I really liked the answer!

"Absolutely, people with ADHD are just as capable as people without ADHD.

Neil Pasricha, to lift his down mood, created a list of 1000 things that make him happy. At least 50 of his items, are particularly appropriate for someone with ADHD. Do you agree?

Finding money you didn’t know you lost.

Eating things past the expiration date

Someone offering to toss your dirty clothes in with their load of laundry