Seven Things Parents Need to Know About Their Child with ADHD

By Cynthia Hammer, MSW, adapted from a section of this article by Jennifer Tezses

A diagnosis of ADHD is not scary. With the proper support, strategies, treatment, and, most importantly, love, your child can succeed in anything they attempt. Most adults who were diagnosed later in life say, "ADHD isn't the problem; not knowing was the problem." Learning your child has ADHD is a positive, helpful step.

1. A diagnosis does not mean your child can't improve. Nothing changes with a diagnosis. You have a name for what has always been, and you now can learn ways to help your child. They might need different ways of learning and school accommodations, such as a 504 or an Individual Education Plan or IEP.

2. Because of neuroplasticity, brains can grow, change and adapt. If your child is accepted and supported early in life, their outcome is very positive.

3. Key is learning their strengths and weaknesses, so you can bolster their strengths and develop techniques for overcoming weaknesses. Such knowledge can change the trajectory of your child's life.

4. Connect with your child in a positive way, even for just 30 minutes a day by chatting, having dinner or playing a game. Time together will strengthen your relationship, reduce unwanted behaviors and increase positive ones.

5. Offer choices and watch for occasions to praise. It is believed that a child with ADHD receives 20,000 criticism by the time they finish high school. Let their home be their loving place, where they are loved unconditionally. Pay attention to what they do well instead of focusing on what they don't do well. Praise always increases motivation, while negativity leads to shame, guilt, and self-hatred.

6. Children with ADHD can be more sensitive to rejection or criticism by others. Their response may be to lash out in rage. Thus, it is doubly important for you to understand your child's sensitive nature. You can help them to be less reactive. Parents can become role models by checking their emotions and apologizing when they know they have erred.

6. Become allies and work together to solve problems as they arise. This will bring you closer together while fostering your child's self-advocacy skills as they learn they need to function their best.