Stop the Blowups in Your ADHD Child Before They Start!

by Michael Vallejo, LCSW

 

A child with ADHD can struggle to control their emotions. Their strong feelings often seem out of place, especially compared to the situation causing them. This can be tough for both the child and the people they interact with.

Recognizing the Signs of Frustration and Anger in Kids with ADHD

Children diagnosed with ADHD commonly demonstrate a combination of emotional and behavioral characteristics that impact their social, academic, and family interactions:

  •  Mood swings: Sudden shifts in mood, from feeling happy to angry or sad, often without a clear reason.

  • Emotional Sensitivity: Reacts strongly to criticism, disappointment, or teasing, which can result in emotional outbursts.

  • Impulsivity: Acting without considering the consequences, such as interrupting conversations, blurting out responses, or taking risks.

  • Not Listening: Appear not to listen, and this can be because they struggle with sustaining attention and are easily distracted.

  • Aggression: Aggression in kids with ADHD can manifest through impulsive actions such as hitting, kicking, or throwing objects.

The Role of ADHD in Emotional Dysregulation

Some children with ADHD have a hard time with emotional regulation, which can lead to intense reactions, anger outbursts, and mood swings. Impulsivity and inattention further exacerbate these challenges and make emotional stability difficult to maintain.

Effective Strategies for Supporting Emotional Regulation

  •  Teach Emotional Awareness: Use feelings charts or pictures of facial expressions to help children recognize and name emotions like happiness, sadness, anger, frustration, and excitement.

  • Build a calm environment: Speak in a calm, steady voice during emotionally charged situations to model calm behavior.

  • Practice mindfulness and breathing: Teach deep breathing, counting breaths, or guided imagery.

  • Recognize effort and reward: Acknowledge the child when they show self-control or effectively manage their emotions.

Behavioral Techniques for Managing Frustration and Anger

  • Create a Calm-Down Corner: Set up a quiet area where the child can relax and regain control.

  • Encourage good communication: Guide the child on how to express their true feelings appropriately. Focus on the importance of doing so calmly and respectfully.

  • Encourage physical activity: Support activities like running, biking, dance classes, and nature walks.

  • Seek professional help: If the child continues to experience difficulties with managing frustration and anger, consult with a therapist or counselor.

Collaborating with Schools and Teachers

Establishing a solid relationship with your child’s school and teachers can help address their unique needs and support their growth.

 Maintain regular communication with teachers to discuss the child's emotional triggers, progress, and any incidents of frustration or anger.

Help children with ADHD navigate their emotions

Helping children with ADHD manage overwhelming feelings can improve their social skills and relationships while reducing behavioral issues. Parents, caregivers, teachers, and professionals play a key role in providing support.

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